Because it’s the new year and because I’m a personal trainer when I’m not writing, I’ve been doing a lot of talking and reading about goal-setting lately. I’m reading a fabulous book, PUSH by Chalene Johnson. She maintains that the best goals will be waylaid by negative self talk.
I think many of us spend far too much time every day saying mean things to ourselves. “You’re too fat.” “You’re too thin.” (Okay, I’ve never said THAT to myself). “You suck as a writer.” “You’ll never be able to finish this book.” Etc, etc.
Would you ever speak that way to your best friend? I don’t think so. Would you ever tolerate anyone speaking that way to your children or to you? I don’t think so. So why do you tolerate it from yourself?
Imagine a coach saying this to her team: “You guys suck. I can’t believe you can call yourselves soccer players. The other team is WAY better than you. You’ll be lucky to score a single goal.” What are the chances of this team winning? Slim to none. If their coach doesn’t believe in them, why should they believe in themselves?
Now imagine telling yourself, “Yes, I can do this! I believe in myself. I’ve achieved goals in the past and I’m going to achieve them again.” Make a list of all the things you’ve accomplished in your life, big and small. Refer to that list whenever you have doubts, or whenever those negative voices start whispering or yelling in your head.
Remember: You are your coach. What you say to yourself affects you way more than what others can say to you. So, do me a favor. Be a better coach. Say positive things to yourself. Build yourself up. Give yourself a pep talk.
Now, go win that game!
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